My wife has been suffering from anxiety and depression since June 07, She has had feelings of needing to leave our home even though she tells me that I am the best husband she could possible have. She is on effexer 150mg . are her unusual thoughts and feelings normal? What do I do to help her struggle through her guilt she feels for putting me though this hellish experience. I love my wife and want to do what she needs to make her well again. She has said she is not going to act on any of her thoughts in the short term. I feel like I'm living in limbo.

Everett

Dear Everett,

I would recommend you accompanying your wife to her next doctors appointment to register your concerns and see what they recommend to help. It may be that her treatment needs to be adjusted so that she can feel better. Clearly she should not make a big decision until she is not depressed although occasionally relationship issues can contribute to depression. My concern is that ending a relationship can be seen as self destructive and I am hoping she is not suicidal also. Please make sure she gets the help she needs, including hospitalization if necessary.

Hope this helps and thanks for writing.